Meaningful Memo from a Father to his Son
Posted by kim on Wednesday, November 28, 2012 Under: Sweet & Nice
Michael Leung, a famous TV
Host and MC/DJ in Hong Kong, is also a child
psychotherapist.
The letter he gave to his son is quite moving. It not only provide a guideline for children, but also suitable for people of all ages.
My Son,
I’m writing this list based on three fundamentals:
The letter he gave to his son is quite moving. It not only provide a guideline for children, but also suitable for people of all ages.
My Son,
I’m writing this list based on three fundamentals:
1. Life is
unpredictable. No one knows how long we’re going to live, so
some things are better said earlier than later.
2. I’m
your father. I’d be the only one to tell you these things.
3. Everything on this list came from my own experience.
I learnt them the hard way, and hopefully that’ll save some
unnecessary steps in your life.
Below are the things you need to remember at all times in your life:
Below are the things you need to remember at all times in your life:
1. To people who are unkind to you,
don’t sweat it. Through your lifetime, no one is obligated
to be nice to you, besides your mom and me.
As for the
people who are kind to you, treasure them, be grateful, but
at the same time, be extra cautious. Everyone does
everything for a reason, when someone is nice to you, it
doesn’t mean they like you. You need to be able to see
through the surface, instead of making them your true
friends immediately.
2. No one is
irreplaceable, and nothing is indispensable. With that in
mind, even when you lose the people or things that you love
and treasure the most, in the future, you need to understand
that it’s not that big of a deal.
3. Life is short. While
you’re wasting it today, you’ll realize you’re at the end of
it tomorrow. So the earlier you start to
treasure your life, the earlier you can enjoy it. Instead of
hoping for longevity, start to live life fully early.
4. The thing called “The Best Love”, or “The One”, doesn’t exist. Love is a feeling of moments. It will definitely changes over time and moods. If your so-called “Best Love” left you, please be patient and let time heals your wounds. Through time, your heart will come to peace and your pain will ease. Don’t over expect the beauty of Love, nor over exaggerate the pain when you lose it.
5. Although a lot of successful people not necessarily received high education, you might not be successful if you don't study hard. The knowledge you consume will become your weapon. You can start from nothing to your name, but you can go nowhere if you are not fully prepared. Never forget that!
4. The thing called “The Best Love”, or “The One”, doesn’t exist. Love is a feeling of moments. It will definitely changes over time and moods. If your so-called “Best Love” left you, please be patient and let time heals your wounds. Through time, your heart will come to peace and your pain will ease. Don’t over expect the beauty of Love, nor over exaggerate the pain when you lose it.
5. Although a lot of successful people not necessarily received high education, you might not be successful if you don't study hard. The knowledge you consume will become your weapon. You can start from nothing to your name, but you can go nowhere if you are not fully prepared. Never forget that!
6 . I don’t expect you
to support me for the rest of my life, so I’m not going to
do the same for you either. When you’re grown enough to be
independent, it will be the end of my responsibilities to
you. From that point, it’s completely your own
responsibilities and decisions, whether to take the bus or
drive a Benz, or whether to eat shark fins or rice noodle.
7. You can require yourself to be accountable to others, but don’t expect accountability from others to you. You can require yourself to be nice to other, but don’t expect the same from others to you. However you decide to treat others, they won’t necessarily do the same in return. You must be very clear on this, or you’ll be very disappointed unnecessarily.
8. I’ve been buying the Lotto for almost twenty years, but still poor. I had never got the third prize even once. So remember, you have to work hard to be successful. There’s no free lunch in the world.
7. You can require yourself to be accountable to others, but don’t expect accountability from others to you. You can require yourself to be nice to other, but don’t expect the same from others to you. However you decide to treat others, they won’t necessarily do the same in return. You must be very clear on this, or you’ll be very disappointed unnecessarily.
8. I’ve been buying the Lotto for almost twenty years, but still poor. I had never got the third prize even once. So remember, you have to work hard to be successful. There’s no free lunch in the world.
9. You got your family
by karma and it happens only once. Please treasure every
moment we spend together, because we don’t know how long it
will last. After this lifetime, we won’t see each other
anymore.
父亲给孩子的信
梁繼璋先生是香港一位著名電台節目主持人，
這是梁繼璋寫給兒子的信,
看後很感動,
覺得不只适合他的兒子,
其實適合给所有的人看
!
我兒:
寫這備忘錄給你，基於三個原則：
寫這備忘錄給你，基於三個原則：
（一）人生禍福無常，誰也不知可以活多久，有些事情還是早一點說好 。
（二）我是你的父親，我不跟你說，沒有人會跟你說。
（三）這備忘錄裏記載的，都是我經過慘痛失敗得來的體驗，可以為你的成長省回不 少冤枉路。
以下，便是你在人生中要好好記住的事：
（一） 對你不好的人，你不要太介懷 ，在你一生中，沒有人有義務要對你好，除了我和你媽媽。至於那些對你好的人，你除了要珍惜、感恩外，也請多防備一點，因為，
每個人做每件事，總有一個原因，他對你好，未必真的是因為喜歡你，請你必須搞清楚，而不必太快將對方看作真朋友。
（二） 沒有人是不可以替代的，沒有東西是必須擁有。 看透了這一點，將來你身邊的人不再要你，或許失去了世間上最愛的一切時，也應該明白，這並不是甚麼大不了的事。
（三） 生命是短暫的 ，今日你還在浪費著生命，明日會發覺生命已遠離你了。因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，與其盼望長壽，倒不如早點享受。
（四） 世界上並沒有最愛這回事 ，愛情只是一種霎時的感覺，而這感覺 絕對會隨時日、心境而改變。如果你的所謂最愛離開你，請耐心地等候一下，讓時日慢慢沖洗，讓心靈慢慢沉澱，你的苦就會慢慢淡化。不要過分憧憬愛情的美，不要過分誇大失戀的悲。
（五） 雖然，很多有成就的人士不一定都有受過很多教育，但並不等如不用功讀書，就一定可以成功。你學到的知識，就是你擁有的武器。 人，可以白手興家，但不可以手無寸鐵
， 緊記！
（六） 我不會要求你供養我下半輩子，同樣地我也不會供養你的下半輩子 ，當你長大到可以獨立的時候，我的責任已經完結。 以後，你要坐巴士還是 Benz (奔驰)，吃魚翅還是粉絲，都要自己負責。
（七） 你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求別人守信，你可以要求自己對人好，但不能期待人家對你好。 你怎樣對人，並不代表人家就會怎樣對你， 如果看不透這一點，你只會徒添不必要的煩惱。
（八） 我買了十多二十年六合彩，還是一窮二白，連三獎也沒有中，這證明人要發達，還是要努力工作才可以， 世界上並沒有免費午餐
（九） 親人只有一次的 緣份 ，無論這輩子我和你會相處多久，也請好好珍惜共聚的時光，下輩子，無論愛與不愛，都不會再見。
你的爸爸
梁繼璋
以下，便是你在人生中要好好記住的事：
（一） 對你不好的人，你不要太介懷 ，在你一生中，沒有人有義務要對你好，除了我和你媽媽。
（二） 沒有人是不可以替代的，沒有東西是必須擁有。 看透了這一點，將來你身邊的人不再要你，
（三） 生命是短暫的 ，今日你還在浪費著生命，明日會發覺生命已遠離你了。因此，
（四） 世界上並沒有最愛這回事 ，愛情只是一種霎時的感覺，而這感覺 絕對會隨時日、心境而改變。如果你的所謂最愛離開你，
（五） 雖然，很多有成就的人士不一定都有受過很多教育，
（六） 我不會要求你供養我下半輩子，同樣地我也不會供養你的下半輩子 ，當你長大到可以獨立的時候，我的責任已經完結。 以後，你要坐巴士還是 Benz (奔驰)，吃魚翅還是粉絲，都要自己負責。
（七） 你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求別人守信，
（八） 我買了十多二十年六合彩，還是一窮二白，連三獎也沒有中，
（九） 親人只有一次的 緣份 ，無論這輩子我和你會相處多久，也請好好珍惜共聚的時光，
梁繼璋
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