"THROUGH A RAPIST'S EYES"
THIS IS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG...
Through
a rapist's eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were
interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some
interesting facts:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They
are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid
or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go
after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common
targets.
2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's
clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors
around to cut clothing.
3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their
purse or doing other activities while walking because they are
off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery
store parking lots.
5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.
6] Number three is public restrooms.
7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and
quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to
worry about getting caught.
8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because
it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going
after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other
similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their
hands.
10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the
attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince
these guys you're not worth it.
POINTS
THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with
you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them
a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can't
believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter.
Now that
you've seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose
appeal as a target.
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you
and yell" Stop or Stay back!" Most of the rapists this man
talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she
would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it
and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER
SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
4] If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can do
it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind,
pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit
or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught
told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape
her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle
strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching
yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.
5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly
unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely
painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to
hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that
they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and
bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing
down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much
pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked
audibly.
7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your
surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any
odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little
silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really
was trouble.
FINALLY,
PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ....
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do:
The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close
enough to use it, do it.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for
your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....
chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than
you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER
DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail
lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy.
The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working,
etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T
DO THIS! The
predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him
to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell U where
to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
A
few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the
passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and
in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger
door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their
vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the
passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car,
you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard to walk
you back . IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid
than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible
places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN!!!
The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even
then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get
you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking,
well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting
women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for
help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted
his next victim.
I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life.
A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send
this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives,
sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well.
Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world
we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it's better safe than sorry.
Don't u agree?
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